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This is my 1st entry ever on a blog. I'm sending this to all the guys I know, who I thought might enjoy this sort of interaction. I encourage you all to forward this to guys you know too.
Of course, women can chime in, but they need to try and be sensitive to what what we're working towards. That is, men working on healing themselves, eachother and the planet. (big job huh?)
So here goes.
The last couple of actual groups I facilitated got a bit hairy. Shoulders thrown back, defensive postures. If we are to address our common issues, compulsions, pride, self-image....feelings, we need to set some ground rules. ONe might say "open communication." But we need to set up parameters as well.
So here's where I suggest we start. NO Swearing, cursing, threatening or name calling. Let's choose our words carefully. Think about dual meanings and be sensitive to the reader. By abstaining from foul language, we are forced express feelings and thoughts more concisely.
For instance: "FUCK YOU !" may mean, "I'm insulted." It could also mean "this discussion is over." For the sake of Spirited and Meaningful dialogue, let's say what we mean and avoid hiding behind these kinds of phrases. So, swearing at me will reult in a termnation of dialogue with me.
OK ! are you up for it?
Here's my thought for this first relay of male insight: Taken from Jed Diamonds book, A Warriors Journey Home: Every year the world spends one trillion dollars on armaments, and a half trillion dollars on illegal drugs. Now add the money we spend on alcohol, nicotine, gambling, pornography.
Do these expendatures reflect what Men value ?
posted by Wicked Preserves @ 4:36 PM
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4 Comments:
i dont think it is what men value it more of men being neglected we have women all the time now saying men are no good ect.......... and as boys growing up we were told to suck it up dont cry be a man then was do turn into adults with no way to outllet our feelings so drugs ,nicotine,alcohol are ways men have been basically forced intothese things to repress feelings of emotion thaat were not supposed to have
That's exactly what Jed Diamond is talking about. He's saying we're filling a void with frugs and so on. The void is the disconnection from the Earth and all its creatures.
Psychologist Aaron Kipnis, aithor of Knights without armor says that males account for
70% of all assault victims
80% of homicide victims
85% of the homeless
90% of persons with AIDS
93% of persons killed on the job
95% of incarceratedpersons.
Yet, most psychological services are geared towards and staffed by women !?!
When did things start to turn for the worse for men around the world?
my opinion is that things got worse for men when the womens movment began they said we held them back from certain jobs cause men were afraid that a woman would do the job's better then men. thats also when all the man bashing started. men started to be looked at as criminals. women continues to bash on men to make them selves look like hero's and men to be villians. here we are many years later and if a guy is putting down a woman the first responce is that "oh men say those things to make them selve's feel better about who they are buy bashing us women isnt it pothetic". well no it's not pothetic isnt that exsacally what women did to get where they are now. it's the same thing only if it isnt in favore of women then it's wrong but if your bashing men it's all good. women cant do all the jobs men can when have you seen a women in like the nba you dont they had to start there own league cause a woman cant compete with men if they could the women would have just joinded the nba instead of making the new league the wnba. and by the way have you tried to watch this there borring there week and slow and well they suck. I also now a guy that worked at a school and when he was sent to get cases of paper he would carry all 3 cases at once and have the job done. but when a coworker a woman had to do that job she had to make 3 trips cause she couldnt carry them they were to heavy. not only does that show weekness but how stupid they think. a man if he couldnt carry them all at once would figure out a faster better way like oh i dont know maybe a CART WITH WHEELS. but no instead the man and the woman are getting the same pay but the woman gets less work done then a man its crap. then women say we dont want to be treated like a peice of meat but let them get pulled over for speeding for exsample and wham the top of there dress slides down and they get flurty like whores. they want to be as good as men but there not so in order to make themselves feel superior to men they have had to and still are bashing men that is where things got worse for men.
Hey guys,
I'm getting to like this blog idea. I'm interested in the discussion about the differences between men and women. I think the women's movement was a natural response to a long history of significant abuse by men in all sorts of ways. I'm afraid I'm slightly biased toward the women on this one. I think giving equal oportunities to men and women is inherantly good. But, I do agree with Brian that women can't physically do every job that men can.
But, having said all that, I don't think male bashing is justified. It's a huge over-generalization that men are basically garbage and women are our here to save us from ourselves. Turn on sitcoms in the evening...here's what you'll see: a beautiful, intellegent woman married to a goofy jerk that's lucky to even know her. Does our culture really believe in that model?
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